Roman Isaac Dempsey Morris
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Name: Roman Isaac Dempsey Morris
Born: May 12th, 2013 (Mothers Day)
Time: 4:28 a.m.
Place: St Petersburg All Children's Hospital
Weight: 2 pounds, 13 ounces
Height: 15 inches
Roman Isaac is our Miracle baby. He was our third attempt at conceiving and carrying our own healthy baby. Roman was expected on the 28th of July 2013. On Saturday, May 11th at 8 a.m., my wife and I went for an elective 4d Ultrasound at Miracles Imaging. During the ultrasound they noticed that my wife's amniotic fluid was extremely low. They then recommended we immediately go and see our doctor in Naples, FL. When we arrived in Naples around 9 a.m., they quickly admitted my wife to the baby center. The doctor informed us that she would be out of work for a while and that it could be soon that we would be having a baby. We decided that it would be best to drive to the John Hopkin's All Childrens Hospital in St Petersburg, FL, because we knew if our child wasn't born there, he would have to be flown there. Our doctor (DR. Heitman) called All Children's hospital and made us direct admit so when we arrived we already had a room in the antepartum. We arrived around 6 p.m. and after many tests and talks with doctors, specialists, and nurses we were finally able to fall asleep around 1 a.m early Sunday morning.
At 4 a.m., about 3 hours after we had fallen asleep we were awoke by a swarm of nurses and doctors. It appeared that they were having trouble finding a heart beat on the machine that was monitoring the baby. His heart rate was severally declining and within 10 minutes they had her out the door and rushed down the hall to the operating room. Completely taken back by what was happening I tried to follow with her but was quickly stopped as the nurse said "becuase this is an emergency surgery, I am sorry but you are not allowed to follow." Not only because I was forced to stay behind nor how fast it all occurred, but also the look of fear and desperation on her face as she was wheeled away sent me into a full panic attack. As I waited in the room, with no nurses or anyone updating me on the situation I remained scared as I contacted her mother and then mine, mine was soon having me take deep breaths and calm down. I thank her for that, Thanks MOM.
At 4:28 a.m. on Mothers Day (May 12th, 2013) our beautiful son had arrived. He was born at 29 weeks of his conception, weighing a mere 2 pounds 13 ounces at 15 inches long. Our little Roman has had a hard road thus far with premature kidneys, lungs, and heart. The fight that I have seen in him thus far as me believing in miracles which I had before let go of their existence. He has been through more than most people go through their entire lives in as little as 1 month, yet he continues to battle with a will to live that most can only dream of.
"It's hard to wait around for something you know might never happen; but it's even harder to give up when you know it's everything you want." Author Unknown
After losing our two daughters in the third trimester, this pregnancy was our final attempt at having a healthy, biological child. Unlike with our first two pregnancies, this one went very smoothly with no indications of ending early. At every ultrasound the baby looked great and so did the amniotic fluid around him. On May 11, 2013 we went to Miracle's Imaging for an elective 4-D ultrasound in the hopes to catch a glimpse of our baby. Our excitement quickly turned to horror as we immediately saw that my amniotic fluid was gone. Knowing our history and fearing that the outcome would be the same, our ob had us transferred to Bayfront in St. Petersburg. Bayfront is connected to All Children's Hospital which is one of the best children's hospitals in the United States. A few short hours later our son Roman was born by emergency cesarean due to bradycardia. Roman was born on May 12, 2013(Mother's Day) at 4:28 a.m. at 29 weeks gestation. He weighed 2 pounds 13 ounces and was 15 inches long.
The next few weeks were an emotional ride on the NICU roller coaster. Roman has had kidney failure, heart surgery to correct a PDA, three chest tubes, multiple pneumothorax, a chylothorax, grade 2 brain hemorrhage, meconium bowel obstruction, ROP, was on the oscillatory ventilator for seven weeks, conventional ventilator for two weeks, CPAP for two weeks and is now on vapotherm. For the first two months of his life he lived off of TPN because with his large patent ductus arteriosus (PDA), his intestine blood flow was compromised. We also were unable to hold him until he was seven weeks old because the oscillatory ventilator works by vibration and can be offset easily.
Until we left Roman battled severe lung disease, enlarged kidneys, stable stage 2 brain bleed, retinopathy of prematurity (ROP) which he had laser eye surgery to repair, and had to have surgery to repair a hernia, but he came such a long way and impressed everyone daily. This wasn't exactly what we had hoped for when we decided to try one last time. But that doesn't mean that we aren't just as grateful.
Another unexpected issue that came along with our micropreemie was being out of work sooner than expected, longer than expected and having a two hour drive to and from the hospital. We were very fortunate to have stayed at the Ronald McDonald house for All Children's most nights but we did have to make the commute a couple times a week to work.
The Day He Was Born